At the present time we get presented a false image of beauty by the media. I often see myself lose in Instagram and Facebook as I look at pictures of supposedly nature beauties. Surely there are many women we would call “beauty” by nature, but that’s just the rarity. The longer I browse those pictures, the more I am gnawing at my own self-confidence. I would like to have such long and full hair, I would like to have a tan and I would like to have the perfect body – but I really want that? I am me and I do not want to be anyone else, but I often get confused. Why am I unsettled? Sometimes I lose sight of the fact that Instagram, for example, is a world apart and how many hours of image editing are behind it. I lose sight of the fact that I’m pretty being myself. Maybe not as pretty as others, but still pretty.
What is beauty?
Beauty is always in the eye of the beholder, you can see that quickly when you just look through your girlfriend’s pictures and you show each other, how you would like to look and who you find beautiful. You will soon realize that your opinions are different. That’s just how it is in real life, some people like you, others like blondes or brunettes. It is important that you do not forget that everyone is beautiful in their own way. Everyone has something special about them and this should be emphasized.
“Schönheit ist ein abstrakter Begriff und bezeichnet Dinge, Eigenschaften oder Erlebnisse, die wir als ästhetisch ansprechend oder besonders angenehm empfinden. Der Gegensatz zu Schönheit ist Hässlichkeit.“
The thing with the wrong self-image
wenn du dich wohl fühlst, fühlst du dich auch schön.
Yesterday I was sitting with a friend in the Vapiano and we talked again in detail about the topic of beauty, it started with things like our eyebrows are not identical or that we should eat healthier henceforth, so that we also have a body like Person X. receive. I would never say that my girlfriend is not pretty, but she (like me) has small inconspicuous blemishes on herself. Ultimately, we are out of the store and did not want to get our free ice cream – after all, we would eat more healthier so that we become prettier. I think at the moment we did not feel pretty, but why we felt like this? We came out of the pool, the hair un-styled and no makeup on the face and in Vapiano we met almost exclusively styled young women. That we supposedly have just as beautiful hair etc we did not recognize at the moment. How did we solve the problem? We then went to Müller (drugstore and perfumery), where we applied a new lipstick and looked at it in detail in the mirror. The result? We suddenly felt pretty again and said to each other, “Hey, we look pretty, look what a lipstick changes!”. Of course, a lipstick does not change our beauty, but at the moment we just feel better about it, and that’s the secret, after all: if you are feeling good, you will feel much prettier
It makes you think twice if you post the hashtag #theysaid on Twitter, where women post their experiences, what they’ve already been told in terms of beauty. It is very frightening, many have been unsettled by family and friends with words like “you are too fat so you never get anyone off”. I also had to listen to some things when I was younger, so I know how painful words can be and how they change our self-image about beauty. It is important that you should not let it get you down. Believe that you are beautiful and that there will always be people that you like very much. It’s just a matter of taste, but still everyone has something nice about them.
5 steps to make you feel prettier
1. Look at yourself in the mirror.
Look at yourself in the mirror with the words “I am beautiful”. A long time ago I read somewhere that it actually makes us feel better when we stand in front of the mirror and express what we want to see from us. So I started the self-experiment, at first it felt really weird to speak with my reflection, but then I quickly realized that it helped me further. Incidentally, this also works with other sentences, such as “I am successful”, “I will convince today” – the whole there are no limits. Have no negative attitude to yourself and repeat these words until you are convinced of it. In my post You’re beautiful, I’ll take a closer look at this topic and give you reasons why everyone should feel nice.
2. Ask your friend what she likes about you.
Often we do not even see our chocolate side and are surprised how our friends perceive us. A supposed flaw find our friends often not bad. It works wonders when you get compliments and you feel much better as well.
What I also recommend you to regularly distribute compliments to others, because then you also regularly get some back. You can also make others happy with compliments, and you’ll find it makes you happier too. In my post January 24, the Day of Compliments, I wrote about the positive effect of compliments and provide assistance to compliments.
3. Raise your chocolate side.
Everyone has something about them that they like and that is especially beautiful. For me it’s the eyes, so I would emphasize them by emphasize with a great eye make-up.
How do you find your chocolate side? Just take a few pictures of yourself or go back to the mirror and ask yourself what you like most. Maybe it also helps you, if you are very critical of yourself, that you ask others about your chocolate side.
So, if you know what your chocolate side is or what is particularly beautiful about you, then you can emphasize this specifically and long ago so targeted by other “blemishs”. So if your “blemish” are no longer in the foreground, but you have emphasized what you love, you will feel better.
4. Buy yourself something nice
You always wanted that one dress because you look great in it? You always wanted to lose weight, but so far you have not had an incentive? Buy something beautiful that makes you feel better. There is a great quote from Audrey Hepburn stating “I think happy girls are the most beautiful girls”. That’s why you should do something good for you, something that will make you happy. This may be a perfume, a new lipstick, etc. that does not matter, but much more will help you to feel more confident and happy, and that’s what you will radiate.
5. Take care of yourself.
Do things that are fun for you. Wear things in which you feel comfortable. Spend your time with people who make you feel beautiful. Never let anything convince you from something else than: you are beautiful.
Here, too, I can recommend to you once again the post You’re beautiful to the heart, but also the post Evening thoughts, be grateful can give you here motivaion to believe in you and to pay more attention to yourself.
I hope my tips have helped you and the topic has opened your eyes a bit. I am looking forward to your comments! Please write me how you find my tips and if you would like to have these tips added further. Maybe you already have experience with my tips and want to share them?
Desirable are also all other useful tips that have helped you to feel better. You are welcome to report on the hashtag #theysaid and your experience of beauty and what you have already said to you nice but also bad. Write me a comment, if you scroll all the way down, you will find the comment field. Of course, you also have the opportunity to send me an e-mail, my e-mail address can be found via Contact.
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